What do you think of when you hear the word diva? Chances are you think of someone who is really stuck up, covered in expensive couture, and bossing people around. The word “diva” has come to mean someone who is generally pretty dislikable, but still seems to get everything they want.
Hang on. Here is the dictionary definition of what a diva is: a famous female singer of opera. That’s it.
The term diva has evolved over time, and it is still evolving to this day. It used to simply mean an accomplished singer, but I frequently hear it being used as an insult or descriptor word of somebody that is pretty high-maintenance. But as the word has continued to evolve, I think the term diva has come to a completely different definition altogether. I think the best and most relevant definition of a diva is a person who values their creativity, respects themselves as an individual, and draws attention to themselves because of their authenticity rather than their ego.
Some classic examples of modern divas would be Whitney Houston, Barbra Streisand, Celine Dion, Mariah Carey, and Beyoncé (duh). These people have achieved diva status not only because of their amazing talent but because they are truly one of a kind. There are many other singers you may not be aware of who actually do sing opera, and sing it very well. These people are first-class divas too.
This kind of diva sounds like someone I want to be. In fact, I think anyone with a creative bone in their body should aspire to become their own brand of diva. Since I aspire to be both a singer-diva and an overall-creative-diva, here are some steps I’m taking that may help you become a diva as well.
Divas don’t try to copy others, they love being themselves
Has anybody ever become successful by copying others? No matter what field you are attempting to achieve diva status in, I’m sure you have people you look up to. However, aspiring to be exactly like these people isn’t your key to success. I think it’s wonderful that there are so many incredible people that feed my inspiration, but if I’m ever going to be that kind of inspiration for anyone else, I must be totally confident in being myself.
They look fierce all the time
Of course, it is natural to assume that divas “look the part” all the time, but that is not necessarily true. Real divas own whatever they are wearing because they don’t get their confidence from the clothes they wear or how their makeup looks. Divas wear whatever they like, even if it doesn’t conform to current trends. In modern terms, these divas are called trendsetters.
Divas value their own creativity
One of the biggest mistakes an artist can make is selling themselves short. It’s easy to compare yourself to others and see that you haven’t accomplished as much, but give yourself credit where it is due! I am so guilty of undermining my success, but it is something I am working on improving. Every diva knows that what she creates is worth her time and a success in itself. So don’t sell yourself short!Every diva knows that what she creates is worth her time and a success in itself. Click To Tweet
They may have fear, but they don’t let it stop them
Obviously, you can’t be a diva if you are constantly checking for approval from others. No one can truly escape fear, but that doesn’t mean you should let it control you. Any good diva will look fear in the eye and move on with her life.
Divas lift up themselves by lifting up others
One of the problems I have with the popular definition of a diva is that it seems to imply that divas don’t care about other people’s work, or will even slam the work of others to build herself up. Divas are of course honest all the time, so when she sees something she likes, she will, of course, say something! Take every opportunity to praise other divas; they will surely return the favor. True divas are not threatened by the success of others.True divas are not threatened by the success of others. Click To Tweet
They don’t need the approval of others to be happy
Divas sing or act or write or paint or do whatever because they love it. Of course, it’s always nice to have the approval of others at hand, but take it or leave it because you should only be trying to make yourself happy. If your work can make others happy, great! But your work doesn’t need the approval of others to survive.
Divas graciously accept compliments and critique
Do you ever find it hard to accept compliments? I know I do. Sometimes all you need to say is a simple and sincere “thank you” and leave it at that. When people compliment you, it’s because you earned it. So like I said before, don’t sell yourself short and simply accept the good that others see in you. Likewise, critique can be equally hard to accept, but the same procedure applies. Whether or not you agree with the critique, smile and say thank you. It’s the least you can do, and it may help you improve yourself.
While I am still aspiring to become a singer-diva, I am taking these steps so that I can become a diva in all areas of my life. I believe that divas are a powerhouse of confidence, which they exude in all areas of their life. In fact, I’m sure we all know plenty of divas in our own lives that are pretty fierce! It might be your mom, or your best friend, or one of the upperclassmen at your school. Either way, I believe we all have the power to be a diva.
Oh, and I also think guys can be divas too. 🙂
So, what do you think of this? Do you like this new-and-improved definition of a diva? Let me know in the comments what you think about aspiring to become a diva or some divas that you might look up to! 🙂