The Pros and Cons of Being an Introvert

the pros and cons of being an introvert

The spectrum of introvert to extrovert is something very near and dear to my heart.  I believe that understanding a little bit about yourself and the way your personality works can help you relate to others and take care of yourself.  I consider myself to be an introvert; more specifically my personality type is INFJ.  It just so happens that INFJ’s cling to their personality type the most, which explains why I wrote this post I guess!

My introverted friends and I bond through the struggles and perks of our personality type.  So, I thought it would be fun to put together this list and see if any of you relate!  Keep in mind that these are only the things I have observed from my own journey as an introvert, so I can understand if you can’t relate to all of these.  Afterall, though we may all fall somewhere on the introvert/extrovert spectrum, we are all individuals. 🙂

The pros of being an introvert

  1. People think you’re really smart because you internalize everything and emerge with earth-shattering deep thoughts.
  2. You have no problem shopping, eating, or working by yourself. It’s actually pretty fun to treat yourself to a coffee or a movie all alone.
  3. People praise you for your amazing listening skills.
  4. You can read people in an instant.  It’s like your superpower!
  5. You are energized by alone time, especially with a good book, your favorite movie, or a walk outside.
  6. You have an uncanny understanding of cats.
  7. Introverts can actually process larger amounts of information than most people in any given situation.
  8. You are able to rationalize and problem solve much easier than your extrovert counterparts.
  9. You are ambitious. Contrary to the quiet evenings and mild social lives, introverts have all the tools they need to pursue their goals fearlessly.
  10. You learn things easily and have an incredible ability for self-correction.

The cons of being an introvert

  1. It is really, really hard to relate with people who are different from you.
  2. Although you love being by yourself, other people don’t really understand why you are keeping your distance.  It’s not them, it’s you.
  3. Making phone calls is the worst.
  4. You have to rehearse what you’re going to say to someone before you speak to them.
  5. You overthink everything. Hopefully it doesn’t drive you insane.
  6. For some reason, people feel like they need to help you be more outgoing. (Please don’t)
  7. Group projects!!!
  8. You hate being late, but you hate being early even more.
  9. You feel misunderstood sometimes.
  10. You struggle developing relationships with people at the same speed as everyone else.

There you go!  Just some observations from the life of an introvert.  Despite all the pros and cons, I wouldn’t trade any of these characteristics for anything.  Do you relate to any of these?  What are your own struggles as an introvert?  To my extroverted friends, what are some of the struggles you face?   Let me know in the comments!

  • I hate making phone calls! I always put them off. Definitely prefer email!

  • It’s funny because I’ve always considered myself an extrovert but I can relate to a lot of the items you listed is there such a thing as an extroverted introvert? Lol nice post, also beautiful blog

    • If introvert/extrovert is a spectrum, you probably fall somewhere near the middle. I do too actually, just slightly more introverted. 🙂 Thanks for the compliment!

  • I can relate to this so much! I hate being too early or late and making phone calls. Don’t even get me started on group projects…

    Amelie |

  • Sophia Davila

    Great post. I can relate to a lot of the above for sure! I think that I’m a combination of an introvert as well as an extrovert. 🙂 Love your blog by the way, I started mine in Feb. as well! It’s nice to find blogs that are smaller like mine.

    • Thanks so much Sophia! Personally, I think everybody should strive to be a bit of both an introvert and an extrovert. I love your blog as well! I think it’s important for us newbie bloggers to stick together. 🙂

    • I’m a combo of intro- and extrovert, too. When I’m with my best friends, I am energized and I could talk to them all day. But when I’m with people I don’t know well, I become more of a listener than a talker.
      Also, where do you blog at? I want to read your posts 🙂

      • Sophia Davila

        I blog at It’s a rather long name, I know, but it was the perfect way to describe what I love; cooking and dancing. 🙂 You can also find me on bloglovin as well.

    • Thanks Sophia! I love finder other blogs similar to mine as well! I’m a lover of dance as well and I’m taking my first ballet class this fall. It should be pretty fun!